Parenting is rife with advice. People are full of it whether asked or not. Advice, suggestions, commentary, etc. It's everywhere. Sometimes it's helpful, sometimes it's not. Now that I'm a mom, even I, a newbie, am being asked for advice. I'm happy to help in any way I can, moms gotta stick together. However, while I'm pleased to say which security blankie Z loves the most or how I handled post-partum hair loss, I really only have one piece of advice I would hope someone would follow:
Do what works for your family. Whatever is best for you, your spouse and your little sprouts is the best thing.
It's terribly difficult to be an adult, isn't it? To make huge decisions about jobs, money, cars, education, etc. It's scary and if there was a formula to follow that would make every human happy it would be SO much easier. But there isn't. What makes one person happy might make another miserable and what is acceptable for one might not be for another. It's easy to judge other people but I try very hard to see those judgments, take hold of them and label them as opinion. Because what do I know? I don't know the inner workings of their hearts and homes, just like they don't know mine.
It's been a hard lesson to learn and I'm still learning it, but I think it's a good one. You can't do what would make someone else happy and expect it to make you happy. Be brave. Chart your own path. Grab hold of your spouse's hand and face the world together fearlessly.
Maybe I'm young and naive, but I believe that a family built on love and faith in each other can not fail. I'm so thankful to have Joe on my team and for the life that we have and are still building. I look at our son and I'm overwhelmed with blessings. Life is sweet. Don't let other people make it sour.
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